What patterns keep showing up in your life? For me it’s toxic people. For the longest time I thought I was supposed to rise above them and just distance myself from the gossipy “well meaning” busy bodies. Like if I somehow led by example they would follow. I’m starting to think that’s not the right lesson.
After a few encounters where I had to confront the issue head on, I’m realizing that the lesson is actually boundaries. Specifically, confronting those who overstep in to my energetic bubble.
I am notoriously adverse to confrontation. But like my cat, I really don’t hide to well from attracting situations that call for it. Whether it be a coworker blaming me for something that wasn’t my fault, horrid in laws making up unbelievable stories of how I tried to harm their careers, or just the random rude customer, I attract the most absurd situations.
I’m not going to go in to detail of each situation, mostly because it would be a book, and partially because I don’t want this to devolve in to a rant on how I’m a victim… I’m not… I have realized these situations arise so that I can set the records straight, and exercise my boundary making muscles. The stronger I am, the more I can show people how absurd their accusations are, and mostly, so that I stop internalizing their toxicity.
I dare you to look at the patterns in your life, the ones that keep coming from every direction, and appear to be escalating in absurdity, and figure out what your current reaction is, and what opposite reaction you should be taking. Allow this realization to force you to overcome something you abhor (like confrontation). It will make you a better person.
And honestly… it feels damn good to watch people realize you aren’t a punching bag, and that they look ridiculous.