Unconditional vs Transactional

As long as my son doesn't pick the cat up, my cat will allow my son to love on him unconditionally. Sounds pretty transactional doesn't it? It also probably sounds like most of your relationships. Or at least it does to me. I've been struggling lately with one relationship in particular. I wrote about it… Continue reading Unconditional vs Transactional


Avoidance vs “No”

Notice how uncomfortable my cat looks. He got caught by my daughter. He typically avoids her, but obviously he can't say "no". Avoiding situations isn't the same as saying "no". Eventually, you will be caught, and you will look like poor MJ. Recently, I was caught. My neighbors (whom I adore) asked my husband and… Continue reading Avoidance vs “No”

Energy exchange

I was listening to a pod cast today by Andrea Hess. Her topic was how to manifest co creators in to your plan. She always makes so much sense, but it's so hard for me to turn it inward and see how I need to follow her advice. I can clearly see how it shows… Continue reading Energy exchange


"Luck favors the prepared", but does it? On the face this quote is totally true. If you have all your I's dotted and your T's crossed things SHOULD go smoothly right? But we all know things still go wrong, and we also all know one of those annoying people for whom life just flows effortlessly.… Continue reading Luck


One of my favorite teachers was talking about gossip and judgement today and she used this word "awfulizing". It took me a second to realize what she had said. Not gonna like I heard waffleizing first. I was running, I love waffles, don't judge me. But that word resonated so fully with me. It is… Continue reading Awfulizing

Tough Love

I would love to do a survey on how many times tough love was used as an explanation for acting badly. In general, and especially for energy work, people do not need tough love. Tough love should be held for serious issues, like substance abuse, and other self harming mechanisms. Tough love is not needed… Continue reading Tough Love